This post was written by SPEAK GW President Laura Porter
It's almost 2015, and to me that means an increase in articles championing weight loss, ads for gyms and a plethora of resolutions that involve changing one's body. With so many messages out there, it can be difficult for people in eating disorders to focus on recovery. That's why we've put together this list of five resolutions from SPEAK GW members, that have absolutely nothing to do with what you look like--and all to do with who you are.
"Make a list of things I do just for me that make me happy, even though they may not be "productive" and try to do more of them next year. And more often!"
This is a great idea, especially if you're looking for healthy coping mechanisms. Make a list of things you love to do and keep it around for whenever you need to practice self-care. Everyone deserves to feel good, and too much stress can lead to exhaustion. Don't forget that you are the most important, and I've always been told that anything I put before my recovery I won't have for long. So put--and your recovery--first!
"This year, I'm going to put myself and my mental health first. Its easy to compartmentalize the things that are happening to you and help someone else instead, but it catches up to you. I'm a big fan of the advice, "you do you" and it's time I take it for myself."
It's hard to put ourselves first, especially when we put others priorities before our own. But we've got to put on our own oxygen mask before we can help others. We can't fully be there for someone we love if we're struggling to be there for ourselves. You're worth love, support and care--just like anyone else.
"To learn three new things about myself"
Explore more of who you are! One of the scariest parts of recovery was thinking who I was without my eating disorder. I came to realize that I am so much more than my illnesses and I learn and grow every day. If you're struggling with getting to know yourself, look at it as a goal to learn something new about yourself. It will take some self-reflection and may be difficult, but it will definitely be worth it.
"I want to work on finding my own ground: how to care for myself and love myself on my own."
Never be afraid to stand on your own, you have the power within you to do it. Even though the ground may be shaky when you first, but soon you will stand firm, ready to take on any struggles or hardships that come your way. And remember: you're never alone and your supports love you and will always be by your side.
And...one last resolution to rock 2015: